IT’S JUST NOT ABOUT HATE
Posted by kayms99 on March 19, 2010
I was thinking about my comments last night on Steven Weber’s post, thinking about this subject.
I realized that I had probably come across as insensitive and ignorant about some of the truly desparate situations concerning this issue. I thought about my own experience.
I was a teenager and unmarried when I got pregnant. And I was terrified. My daughter’s father, being young himself was not very receptive to the idea of becoming a father. He wanted me to get an abortion.
Not only was I looking at the most terrifying personal dilemma ever in my life (that only a woman can fully understand) I had realized that he (the father) had lied to me.. clearly, he didn’t truly love me like he claimed he did… I was alone. I became even more terrified. Even then, as a teenager I knew abortion was out of the question. But, in order to receive some kind of desparately needed immediate emotional comfort, I pretended to agree.
The next day when it was officially confirmed that I was pregnant, my daughter’s father came thru and did the right thing. WE did the right thing. His Christian upbringing, I’m sure, had a lot to do with his decision. I know I was one of the “lucky” ones. I realized that again last night. I thought, what if he hadn’t “come thru”? I’m sure I would have continued living with my parents and raised my daughter on my own. But, what if my parents were not supportive, what if I hadn’t had that option either? I do understand COMPLETELY that with each step it gets harder and harder to resist the quick and “easy” way out. But, there is help, there are programs and church organizations, there ARE OTHER OPTIONS. It may not be easy, it may be a scary and lonely road to go down but it IS the best choice.. it IS the right thing to do for EVERYONE.
What the pro choice community constantly forgets to mention is the emotional toll of making the choice to abort. They don’t have to live with this choice for the rest of their lives. They conveniently don’t acknowledge the depression, sadness, regret and guilt that always comes with this decision. Abortion providers don’t mention these things when they “council” you.. basically, they just provide the service for monetary compensation and then send you on your way.
This is such a hard subject to discuss because I know that many have taken the option to terminate a pregnancy. The current number is around 4000 per day, each and every day in this country. I do NOT…DO NOT desire to make those people feel worse than I know that they already feel. It is especially hard to discuss the details of an actual abortion. But, I can’t let that stop me from trying to reach those who will face this dilema in the future. And also to reach those who actively support this destructive choice which, again, is destructive to all persons involved, not just to the unborn baby.
The desire of pro life proponents is NOT to spread “hate”. It is to try and counter the years and years of liberal brainwashing by the left that abortion is sometimes the “right” choice. I am so puzzled by the double standards of the left. Is war EVER a “right” choice with the left… no I don’t think so. Why not abortion?? WHY?? Is it ever a “right” choice to exact capital punishment?? NEVER. Why not the same with abortion?? A person who has committed the most heinous crimes deserves to be spared pain and suffering according to the left. But not an innocent (unborn) person? … and why? because they are still connected to another person…. a person who is more able to defend their rights, so they win out. What happened to protecting the defenseless?? I don’t understand. This is a very warped idea of “social justice” and “equal rights for everyone”. And this IS liberalism.
And the other thing that I wanted to mention, that I neglected to mention, is that God forgives. Oh how important this part is. He forgives us of all our sins if we ask for His forgiveness and accept His GIFT of salvation thru His Son. God forgives and He forgets. He does not want us to be tormented.. He WANTS us to find peace and He offers it thru Jesus. Peace and forgiveness are truly offered and truly obtainable.