I was thinking about my comments last night on Steven Weber’s post, thinking about this subject.
I realized that I had probably come across as insensitive and ignorant about some of the truly desparate situations concerning this issue. I thought about my own experience.
I was a teenager and unmarried when I got pregnant. And I was terrified. My daughter’s father, being young himself was not very receptive to the idea of becoming a father. He wanted me to get an abortion.
Not only was I looking at the most terrifying personal dilemma ever in my life (that only a woman can fully understand) I had realized that he (the father) had lied to me.. clearly, he didn’t truly love me like he claimed he did… I was alone. I became even more terrified. Even then, as a teenager I knew abortion was out of the question. But, in order to receive some kind of desparately needed immediate emotional comfort, I pretended to agree.
The next day when it was officially confirmed that I was pregnant, my daughter’s father came thru and did the right thing. WE did the right thing. His Christian upbringing, I’m sure, had a lot to do with his decision. I know I was one of the “lucky” ones. I realized that again last night. I thought, what if he hadn’t “come thru”? I’m sure I would have continued living with my parents and raised my daughter on my own. But, what if my parents were not supportive, what if I hadn’t had that option either? I do understand COMPLETELY that with each step it gets harder and harder to resist the quick and “easy” way out. But, there is help, there are programs and church organizations, there ARE OTHER OPTIONS. It may not be easy, it may be a scary and lonely road to go down but it IS the best choice.. it IS the right thing to do for EVERYONE. Read the rest of this entry »
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